《有錢人想的和你不一樣》是本討論財務心態的書，作者哈福．艾克也透過自己的部落格持續分享有錢人的觀成給大家。為了讓自己持續保持有錢人的思維，我將他部落格的文章翻譯做為自己的筆記。
事情只有你能決定其意義我們都有，看過或聽過這樣類似的經驗：一件平常的事，往往有些人把它解讀的跟大家所想的都不一樣，其呈現出來的結果有可能是讓人聽了就很高興的，也有可能是聽了就會讓人感到沮喪甚至結果是以一場悲劇收場。
有的時候，那些每天讓你難過的事情，大部份都是因為自己在生活中抱著負面思考所造成，同時也因此就把自己推進一個不斷循環的衰運中。很多人都會說自己的生活很難過，但他們都忽略了一件簡單的事：只要做不一樣面向的事情就可避開過這樣的生活。
在關於錢、成功、快樂的心靈法則裡，其中最重要的就是正向地去聚焦事情並同時了解我們是處在一個正反兩面角度的世界裡面 – 上跟下、亮與暗、黑與白、左跟右、裡跟外。物體不可能只有後面卻沒有前面，這兩面是一體的，就好比太極中的陰跟陽是共存不可分離的。
無論如何每一件事情都存在這種兩面的特性。你不可能完全沒有不好的事情發生而一直處在好的事情(沒有壞事那來對照的好事？)，反之亦然。所以不管我們做了什麼都是我們選擇去做的。假如你選擇去看負面的那一面，那麼你所處的當下會變成什麼樣？反之如果你選擇去看正向的那一面又會發生什麼事？我們都知道這不是什麼新觀念了，但是有多少人真的用這樣的方式在生活？我們遇到衰事陷入不好的情緒，接著我們養成從負面看事情的習慣，而且到後來我們就是認為事情的發生就是如此，這是最令人哭笑不得的一部份，而且我們竟然認為我們看到的就是事實。不！那只是跟”你有關的”事實，是你把它變成事實的！任何一件事本身是沒有意義的，只有我們自己可以附予它意義。
就像聲音本身並不是吵或是安靜的，它只是一個頻率共振的物理現象，就只是這樣而已！是你決定這個聲音對你是吵還是不吵，就像你在一張白紙上塗上顏色成為一張圖一樣。「這聲音我聽起來很吵」這都只是你覺得，沒錯！就是你使任何事情變成你想的那樣的。在你決定它呈現何種情況前它是沒有任何意義的。是你決定了它，你給它畫上了亮的顏色，它就變成亮的圖案；你畫上了暗的顏色，它就變成暗的圖案。事物本身沒有任何代表性，是你決定它們成為那種樣子。
所以你想要開始為一件事情發生的結果上什麼樣的顏色？當然就是光亮、正面的！如果一件事情原本是場災難的話你要怎麼辦？你會如何做？它就只是一個結果，如果你認為它不是一場災難，它就什麼都不是，它就是不好不壞的。你可以這樣說：「我認為任何一件苦難的背後都會伴隨著好的事情。」
你是唯一能對你自己負責的人。你的思想不代表一切，你的思想只是一閃而過的物理能量，它們不具任何意思直到你讓它們有意義，你必須掌控你自己的思想。
而是什麼決定了這些事？你的習慣！就怎麼簡單。透過聚焦在正面的思考方式來改變你的習慣，你只要有練習你就會往前成長。
現在我們想聽聽你是怎麼看待的。你可以回憶一下你曾因為聚焦在負面思考最後讓你付出了什麼代價？你在這之中學到了什麼功課？你做了何種努力開始去實現正向思考的聚焦方式？可以往下分享你的想法吧！
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原文內容 Nothing Has Meaning … Till You Say It Does We’ve all either seen, experienced or heard of someone who made the proverbial mountain out of a molehill. The consequences can vary anywhere from entertaining, to frustrating, even tragic. The everyday tragedy, though, is that so many people continue to assess a negative perception on life’s circumstances when they could just as easily do the opposite. One of the most important spiritual laws of money, success and happiness is positive focus while also understanding that we live in a universe of duality—up/down; light/dark; black/white; right/left; in and out. You can’t have a back without there being a front. Yin cannot exist without Yang. That duality is always going to be in everything, no matter what. You’re not going to get some good into your life without there being a downside, and vice versa. So what do we do? It’s our choice. If you see the negative side of things because that’s what you choose to look at, then all that exists for you at that time will be what? You see the positive side, though, and what will exist for you? You and I know none of this is new, but how many people actually live this way? We get sucked into the mind Frick and we get into a habit of seeing things on the negative side, and we think that that’s what is. That’s the hilarious part. We think that what we see is reality. No! It’s your reality! You just made it your reality. Nothing has meaning until we give it meaning. The sound is not loud, and it’s not quiet. It is vibrations going out. That’s it. You paint the picture. ‘It’s loud for me.’ For you; sure! You make it anything you want. It’s nothing until you make it something. You’re going to decide. You color things light, and then they’re light. You color them dark, they become dark. They aren’t anything. You make them something. So what would you like to start coloring things? Light! Positive! What if it turns out to be a disaster? What do you do? You realize it’s not a disaster. It’s a nothing. It’s a neutral. You get to say, “I am going to color it that after this ‘disaster’ something good might happen.” You’re the one in charge up here. Your thoughts aren’t anything. They’re just flickers of energy and they mean nothing until you let them mean something. You have to have empowering thoughts. Now let’s get something straight … we know that it’s impossible tonever have negative thoughts, right or right? Are we going to let that stuff live inside us? Of course we will. It’s going to happen, but the question is how long will you stay stuck in them? What determines that? Your habits! That’s all it is. Change your habit by practicing positive focus. You practice and you move on. Now we want to hear from you. Can you think of a situation where a pattern of negative focus cost you something? What was the specific lesson you took away from that? What practices did you implement to start cultivating a pattern of positive focus?
